Creating a Culture of Multi-Generational Prayer in the Church (pt. 3 in our Prayer Series)
As a youth worker, you desire to have a multi-generational student ministry. And you also desire to see your students engage in prayer. What would it look like to have the blending of both? Read here and gain some insights from a number of youth ministry professionals how this can become a living part of your student ministry!
When you look at the next generation, what do you see?
Do you merely see the church of tomorrow or do you see the church of today?
This may seem trivial, yet I believe the way you and I choose to answer this question has the potential to significantly impact how we biblically disciple young followers of Jesus. Yet, beyond this, how we choose to answer this question also has the potential to impact the entire body of Christ. Let me explain.
Up until this final point in NGM’s three-part series on prayer, we have focused on cultivating this spiritual discipline exclusively within the next generation. In part one, we established a biblical basis for prayer and enlisted three basic questions to frame our focus on developing prayer in our students’ lives, including:
Why do we pray?
Why do we not pray?
How do we pray?
In part two, we considered how we can effectively lead our students to pray with and for their generation. While part one and two are certainly essential elements of discipling young Christ-followers, a perspective that exclusively sees the next generation as the church of tomorrow may very well be satisfied to conclude here. However, when we choose to see the next generation as vital members of the church not of tomorrow, but of today, we recognize that the body of Christ is multigenerational and must be unified in every way. Surely, this includes unity in prayer as evidenced time and time again throughout Scripture (Acts 1:14, 2:42; 16:25).
With this understanding, let us consider how we may practically respond in action to cultivate a culture of multi-generational prayer within the body of Christ.
It starts with connecting with adults
To begin, perhaps one of the most practical yet challenging aspects of cultivating a culture of multi-generational prayer is related to the limited proximity of all generations in a number of churches today. This limited proximity can all too easily impede the critical relational connections to others within the church physically, socially, emotionally, and spiritually.
As Angie Dallavalle (middle school director of Grace Community Church of Frederick, MD) shared in NGM’s April recent virtual round table, “Prayer is relational — it connects us with God and each other. We need relationships. If our students and our older adults don’t have any relational touch points, then they’re not going to be praying together.” While there is certainly a need for age-related ministries, we, as student ministry leaders, must be on guard to ensure that we do not unnecessarily isolate our students from the church body. Instead, as we seek to establish a firm foundation for cultivating multi-generational prayer, let us foster critical connections or “touch points” that may enhance proximity in an effort to relationally unify all generations.
To do this, consider the following suggestions from these veteran youth ministry leaders:
Dustin Rife: “One of the values at my church is, ‘Authentic community is greater than independent living.’ We try to get as many students as possible serving on Sunday mornings so they can build relationships with others in the church. The more interaction we can get with people face to face the better off they are in sharing prayer requests or praying with others. Everyone also huddles up and prays together prior to serving.”
Kamilla Dening: “Help students build relationships by connecting interests (for example: crocheting, which allows for a connection with older women). Find touch points where interests in the same hobbies align across generations as many of these hobbies are returning from older generations.”
Ethan Callison: “Integrate the next generation in ministry. Every Sunday intergenerational ministry happens where children and students have the opportunity to lead in worship. For example, kids or students will serve and play an instrument or serve as a vocalist. We have to have all generations — the younger generation have that passion, energy, vigor, zeal. While they want to go do things, they need the wisdom and resources of older generations (1 John 2:12-14). Sometimes we place excellence over relationships and diminish the next generation’s service based on ability. We need to give generations opportunities to grow and serve together.”
Imagine mobilizing students to serve at events or gatherings for other age-specific ministries!
For example, encourage male students to set up, serve a meal, or tear down for a men’s breakfast. This places students in proximity with other generations and also allows them to learn how to relate through observation and interaction. This also communicates that all generations are responsible for building relational bridges with one another.
Then moves to connecting with adults in prayer
Derek Wheelock: “Every 5th Sunday is ‘Family Sunday’ at our church. During this time, we have printed cards with each students’ information. As students stand up front with their card, adults meet the students, agree to pray for them over the next three months, and then move to pray with them right then and there. The adult also receives a reminder card of their commitment to pray for the student over a specific length of time. Then, at the next 5th Sunday, they swap, and the students do the same and pray with and for the adults.”
Rich Brown: “Have a conversation with your lead pastor and those in adult ministries. Together, consider how powerful it could be to have some of your mature, godly students up on stage on a Sunday asking the church how they can pray for them as they communicate, “We love our church, we love you. As students, we want to pray for you. Follow this up with having mature students go into Sunday school classes or small groups and do the same thing. Help students ‘give’ prayer rather than merely ‘get’ prayer.”
as students see this modeled in you
Finally, if we are to cultivate a culture of multi-generational prayer, we, as ministry leaders, must lead by example and demonstrate in action that all generations are a priority within our student ministry contexts. As you seek to lead by example, contemplate the following suggestions:
Dustin Rife: “Take the leap and don’t miss opportunities to invite adults to serve in student ministry.”
Matt McClay: “Help student ministry adult leaders establish prayer partnerships with students. This is one of the most logical places to start to bridge multigenerational prayer groups. Provide a Scripture based way for leaders to pray for the students under their care daily.”
Rich Brown: (regarding your leadership team and the weekly ministry times)
o “Ensure your student ministry leadership team is multigenerational.”
o “Invite older couples to come into a midweek gathering. For example, consider a marriage conversation where you invite an older couple that has been married a long time and still hold hands in church. Let them speak to maintaining a love for one another. Or, have older adults talk about walking as a disciple of Jesus. Let’s help create that bridge across generations. Then, after these older adults have shared, invite students to pray over these adults.”
As you ponder these suggestions, take time to examine your personal commitment to multi-generational prayer. How are you doing and what can you do next?
How are you leading by example through a personal emphasis on multi-generational prayer?
Consider the ministry’s priority on multi-generational prayer. What is the next step you can take to own this personally?
In what ways can you then call your student ministry to action with regard to multi-generational prayer?
MAKing PRAYER VITAL IN yOUR MINISTRY!
As we wrap up NGM’s three-part series on prayer, know that it has been a true privilege to take this deep dive with you as we considered how to develop students who are committed to the biblically essential spiritual discipline of prayer. Thank you for exploring this with us! It is my sincere hope that in whatever capacity you have joined us, whether through NGM’s virtual round tables, these articles, or even through reading NGM’s recharge blog, that you are encouraged to lead your students so they may come to see just how vital prayer is to a growing and thriving relationship with Jesus. It is also my hope that you will choose to stay connected with NGM and the authentic community developed here through Facebook or Instagram. Be sure to also subscribe to NGM’s newsletter to be alerted of NGM’s upcoming events and free resources available to you and your student ministry team. Hopefully, these articles have helped you to catch just a glimpse of the fruitful collaboration that takes place during our free virtual round tables as fellow student ministry pastors, directors, and volunteers come together from all across the U.S to encourage one another, share experiences, and strategically brainstorm to effectively lead and love the next generation in the truth of Christ. We would be thrilled to have you join us for our next virtual round table so you may experience this community for yourself! Just check out NGM’s events and register to receive the link to join. You are welcome here!
Leading Students to Pray with and for Their Generation (pt. 2 in our Prayer Series)
Sara writes, “It is my sincere prayer that as students are led through these three questions, they may come to see and experience prayer as an essential discipline to a thriving relationship with Jesus. Now, as we seek to build on this foundation of prayer established in part one, let’s jump into part two and consider how we can effectively lead students to pray with and for their generation.”
Prayer really is incredible, isn’t it? Hopefully, you have had the opportunity to read part one of this three-part series on prayer where we explored how to cultivate the spiritual discipline of prayer in the lives of the next generation. Here, we enlisted and considered three basic questions to frame our focus on developing prayer in our students’ lives including:
Why do we pray?
Why do we not pray?
How do we pray?
It is my sincere prayer that as students are led through these three questions, they may come to see and experience prayer as an essential discipline to a thriving relationship with Jesus. Now, as we seek to build on this foundation of prayer established in part one, let’s jump into part two and consider how we can effectively lead students to pray with and for their generation.
Scripture is clear that believers are to pray with one another.
students praying with students
In fact, Jesus affirms his presence in the midst of two or more who gather to pray in his name (Matt. 18:20). As we look to the early church, we see the disciples’ devotion to gathering in prayer (Acts 1:14, 2:42, 12:5, 12). This time of corporate prayer was certainly powerful and effective as evidenced by the Holy Spirit’s extraordinary work in and through the early church (Acts 2 & 4).
Not only did the early church grow rapidly, but it grew exponentially (Jas. 5:16; Acts 2:47, 5:14, 6:1, 7, 9:31, 11:21, 16:5). Surely, there is power in a unified body of like-minded believers (Psa. 133:1; Acts 2:42-47; Eph. 4:1-4)! With this understanding, let us lead our students to practically respond in prayer with one another by considering the wisdom shared by student pastors in NGM’s Virtual Round Tables:
David Pinkham (Youth Pastor | Unity Baptist Church, Prince George, VA)
o Model it. Celebrate it. Teach it.
Chris Cortes (Student Pastor | Central Church, Ewing, NJ)
o Give space for students to break up in groups of 5-6 to pray together. Our students really enjoyed this and rose to the occasion.
Dakota Gragg (High School Pastor | Spotswood Baptist Church, Fredericksburg, VA)
o Encourage students to take the initiative. Every week after our midweek program, students come together for thirty minutes to pray with one another.
o Make space for corporate prayer, so it becomes the cultural DNA of the church.
Benji Hall (Student Pastor | FBC Park Street, Charlottesville, VA)
o Build time into your youth activities for prayer and go beyond prayer as an opener/closer. It is important to create the opportunity and set the table for prayer.
Richard Brown (Founder & President of NGM)
o Encourage students to gather for prayer prior to ministry events.
o Consider teaching through Acts 2 & 4 and showing students to see the power of prayer when the church gathers to pray with one another.
As students take hold of opportunities to put corporate prayer into action, they may begin to see the power of the Holy Spirit at work. With this, consider providing opportunities for students to journal and reflect on God’s activity in response to corporate prayer. Then, allow students to publicly share and celebrate God’s work with the rest of ministry. This may help students develop an awareness of God’s activity and faithfulness while also reinforcing the essential need to consistently gather with fellow believers in unified prayer.
Next, while God’s Word is clear that we are to pray with one another, He is also clear as to who believers are to pray for. The answer? Everyone. This includes those who profess faith in Christ and those who do not. After all, Timothy urges believers to petition, pray, and intercede on behalf of “all people” as this is “good and pleasing to God our Savior” (1 Tim. 2:1-3, ESV). Timothy goes on to call attention to the truth that praying for “all people” is the very will of God as He desires that all would be saved and come to know the absolute truth of Jesus Christ (1 Tim. 2:4, ESV). As we seek to faithfully lead students to pray, let’s first turn to praying for our brothers and sisters in Christ.
students praying FOR students
In Jesus’ final prayer, he specifically prayed for his disciples. It was in this prayer that Jesus interceded for their protection from the evil one, their complete unity, and sanctification by God’s Word before he paid the ultimate sacrifice (John 17:1, 9-17). Surely, this prayer was a demonstration of Jesus’ perfect love for his disciples to the very end (John 13:1). While this is true, Jesus also calls his disciples to love one another as he loved them (John 13:35). The Apostle Paul demonstrates his love for Christ and the church by his commitment to pray on behalf of his partners in the gospel (Phil. 1:3-6). Yet, he also requests prayer as he seeks to “fearlessly make known the mystery of the gospel” (Eph. 6:19-20). As leaders, we, too, must imitate Christ as we humbly and selflessly love one another to such an extent that we intercede on behalf of our brothers and sisters personally and corporately (Phil. 2:3-8). This, however, must extend beyond us as we lead the next generation of disciples to love one another by praying for one another. To do this, consider the following suggestions, as provided in February’s NGM Round Table:
In a small group setting, pair students together as prayer partners for the school year. These prayer partners will commit to praying daily for one another.
Encourage prayer partners to check in with one another once a week outside of ministry events. This check-in could include texting a prayer or recording and sending prayer via audio message.
Create space for prayer partners to meet with one another for twenty minutes during small group time. Each student can spend five minutes sharing praises or requests with their prayer partner. Then, students can spend the remaining time praying with and for one another.
Gather the entire student ministry regularly to pray together for their protection, unity, and sanctification for the sake of the gospel (John 17:9-17).
Select one student each week and end the student gathering by praying over them. (Matt McClay | Student Pastor, Lewis Memorial Baptist Church, Huntington, WV).
“Our student leaders decided to dedicate a part of the back wall where we gather as a prayer wall – students can provide prayer requests and others can go back and spend time during the evening praying together over these individuals and their requests.” (Fletcher Abbot | Grace Community Church, Frederick, MD)
When a student asks for prayer, do not put it off. Pray then and there with them. (Rich Brown)
students Praying for their lost generation
Last but certainly not least, we must lead our students to pray for those who do not yet profess Christ as Lord and Savior. Jesus makes clear over the course of his earthly ministry that he came to “seek and save the lost” (Luke 19:10). Indeed, it is this great love for the world that God sent Jesus to rescue and redeem those who believe in Him from the death of sin (John 3:16). While many long for Christ’s promised return, Peter affirms that the Lord is actually being patient, “not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance” (2 Pet. 3:9. ESV).
Surely, there is an abundant harvest and believers are to “pray earnestly” that the “Lord of the harvest” would send workers (Matt. 9:37-38). Once again, the Apostle Paul demonstrates an immense desire for the salvation of the lost and earnestly prays that they may know who God is in accordance with the truth of Christ (Rom. 10:1-4). Thus, as disciples of Christ, we, too, must long for the salvation of the lost and pray earnestly on their behalf as we pursue living out the mission of making disciples in fulfillment of Jesus’ Great Commission (Matt. 28:19-20). With this understanding, we must lead the next generation to not only recognize and embrace their mission, but to earnestly pray and long for the salvation of the lost. To do this, contemplate the following.
Have students create a prayer wall with unsaved friends (first name only). Then, devote time praying as a ministry on behalf of these individuals.
Designate time to regularly pray privately and corporately that the “Lord of the harvest” would send workers (Matt. 9:37-38).
Encourage students to see how they, too, can respond in obedience and serve as a worker who seeks to share the Good News with the lost.
Extend the opportunity for Christian students to gather prior to a ministry event to pray together over the lost who will be in attendance.
Encourage Christian students to go on prayer walks. Some students have shared that they view their school as a mission field and regularly pray over lockers as they walk the halls or pass vehicles in the parking lot as they walk into school.
Consider a Bible study that focuses on Paul’s requests for prayer for the sake of the gospel. While all things are to be covered in prayer, this study may lead students to develop an eternal perspective that informs their prayer on behalf of the lost.
Without question, there is great need to create intentional space for our students to pray with and for their entire generation. As you consider how you can lead students to do this in light of the previously mentioned action steps, be encouraged to implement just one step the next time you have the privilege of leading students. Then, it is my hope that you will come back for the final part of this three-part series on prayer as we consider how to build upon students praying with and for their generation to include all generations.
For now, I would like to impart one final piece of valuable insight that resonated with many student leaders during NGM’s February Round Table. During this Round Table, Shane Muszall (Youth Pastor | Harmony Church, Sumter, SC) shared that he calls his students to “reject passivity” as he places great emphasis on encouraging them to step up and pray. With this, be encouraged to call your students to do the same.
CULTIVATING THE SPIRITUAL DISCIPLINE OF PRAYER WITHIN OUR STUDENTS (pt. 1 in our Prayer Series)
As we jump into part one in an effort to cultivate the spiritual discipline of prayer in the lives of our students, it is vital to first teach them the why behind prayer. With a biblical basis for prayer established, students must come to see that prayer is essential to their relationship with Jesus. Then, students may willingly choose to embrace prayer and be motivated to learn how to pray. With this in mind, there are three basic questions we can enlist to frame our focus on developing prayer in our students’ lives:
Why do we pray?
Why do we not pray?
How do we pray?
I’ll pray for you.” It’s a common phrase that all too often spills from a well of good intentions. In fact, one high school student recently shared among a group of believers that this phrase is “more of a nice way of saying, ‘I’m thinking of you.’” As her peers nodded in agreement, another student chimed in and honestly admitted, “I mean, I think I know what prayer is, but I really don’t know how to pray. Actually, I don’t know what I’d do if I ever had to pray in front of someone.” This was only the beginning of this discussion on prayer as several more students questioned if prayer really even matters while others confirmed that they rarely pray, if at all. Does this sound familiar? The list of student thoughts and experiences related to prayer could most certainly go on and on.
How then, as youth leaders, do we develop a generation of believers who are committed to the biblically essential discipline of prayer?
As we jump into part one in an effort to cultivate the spiritual discipline of prayer in the lives of our students, it is vital to first teach them the why behind prayer. With a biblical basis for prayer established, students must come to see that prayer is essential to their relationship with Jesus. Then, students may willingly choose to embrace prayer and be motivated to learn how to pray. With this in mind, there are three basic questions we can enlist to frame our focus on developing prayer in our students’ lives:
Why do we pray?
Why do we not pray?
How do we pray?
WHY DO WE PRAY?
First, why do we pray? By pointing students to Scripture, they will learn that God’s Word abounds with instruction regarding prayer and that this instruction is relevant to them, even as teens. Contrary to the perspective of some, prayer is not exclusively reserved for pastors, mature adults, or the “spiritually elite.” Instead, continuous prayer is “God’s will in Christ Jesus” and is essential to every believer in every stage of life as a matter of obedience to God’s Word (1 Thess. 5:16-18). Jesus himself demonstrates a life of perfect obedience to God as his life and ministry were fueled by prayer in reliance on the Father.
With this understanding, let us encourage Christian students to imitate Christ’s life of prayer as they submit to the One they have professed as Lord of their life (John 14:15). This submission, however, is not rooted in legalism but in the authenticity of joyful obedience (Psalm 119:47). While there is need to obey, let us also emphasize that there is blessing in obedience and help students see that prayer is a gift for the believer and the church (a gift that Annie so eloquently details in her blog).
Although it is often practiced as a rehearsed formality, prayer is a gift of access to our Sovereign God. This access was made possible only by the precious blood of Christ that tore the veil so we may now approach God with humility and confidence, from any place at any time (1 John 5:14; Matt. 27:50-51; Eph. 3:12; Heb. 4:16). By teaching students this gift of access to God, they may humbly approach and depend on Him in every moment.
Through a posture of obedience and dependence, students are empowered by the Holy Spirit to live out their faith in a world hostile to Christ (Eph. 6:10-18; Acts 5:32; Rom. 8:29). The same is true for the church. In the book of Acts, we see time and time again that the church grew exponentially as believers gathered in prayer with and for one another. Here, we see God’s power on display as He advances His Kingdom in response to His people gathered in prayer (Acts 4:31; Jas. 5:16). Therefore, let us establish a biblical foundation for prayer so students may come to experience God’s power revealed through personal and corporate prayer. To do this, consider the following:
● Evaluate the priority of prayer in your own life. What does your prayer life communicate regarding prayer as a biblically essential discipline?
● Encourage fellow leaders to evaluate the priority of prayer in their personal lives and in the ministry. How well do they believe the ministry does or does not reflect prayer as a biblically essential discipline to students?
● As a student ministry team, come together for a short series to establish a biblical basis for prayer. Invest the time to develop a healthy team of individuals who live out the priority of prayer personally and corporately. Then, re-do this study! Only this time, invite a small group of high school students/leaders to participate. This will prepare these students to join adults and lead the same study for the student ministry.
● Before teaching students, evaluate their preconceived notions and current prayer practices. Provide them with time to reflect on their current understanding of prayer with guided questions followed by measurable responses (such as a 0-10 never/always scale). Provide space for free-text journaling as well.
● At the conclusion of a ministry-wide series centered on the “why” behind prayer, provide the same evaluation referenced above so students (and their leaders) can measure changes based on what they have learned. Provide space for students to develop a response in obedience to God’s Word.
WHY DO WE NOT PRAY?
Secondly, “why do we not pray?” As in, what keeps students from praying? By asking this question, we can help students honestly evaluate their lives so they may identify potential barriers and develop a plan to overcome them. This will require providing an opportunity for students to reflect and openly share intrinsic and extrinsic barriers to prayer. While you may have already addressed an intrinsic barrier for many students by addressing the why behind prayer, there are several more deeply held beliefs or perspectives that may impede a student’s prayer life that have yet to be realized. Additionally, in a world full of distractions and a culture driven by productivity, there are numerous extrinsic factors that complicate our students’ commitment to a disciplined life of prayer. To address barriers to prayer, contemplate these suggestions:
● Gather students and provide them with two sticky notes – one for intrinsic and one for extrinsic barriers to prayer (ask for at least two examples of each). When they have finished, have students post their sticky notes on the wall or board at the front of the room (anonymously if they prefer). After this, read the sticky notes aloud and compile a large list for all students to see. Make this fun and involve the students as you write them out. Ask if anyone can relate to the barrier and be willing to personally relate when applicable. The hope is to get students thinking deeper about their own barriers during this exercise. Then, provide an open forum where students can freely add to this list out loud as a group.
● After providing time for students to share, start a new list and invite students to openly share relevant solutions to the listed barriers. This may help students find practical solutions to their barriers at the recommendation of peers.
● Provide a copy of these comprehensive lists to small group leaders so they may help students develop a plan to overcome barriers to prayer (perhaps this could even be a small group effort). Consider providing a template that will provide consistent structure to this plan for all students in the ministry.
● Small group leaders may then check in weekly to find out how the student’s plan is going and provide encouragement in prayer (consider the audio message option and pray for the student on the spot – let them see prayer in action as it is modeled by an adult they know and trust).
● Encourage fellow small group members to do the same check in with their peers (consider pairing students with a prayer partner(s) to ensure each member is receiving weekly encouragement and prayer from at least one fellow group member – encourage them to extend beyond their one peer as they are led).
HOW DO WE PRAY?
Finally, “how do we pray?” This question immediately brings to mind the disciple’s request of Jesus, “Lord, teach us to pray…” (Luke 11:1, NIV). Jesus did not rebuke this disciple’s request. Rather, he immediately responds with, “When you pray say…”' and provides a model of prayer for His disciples to follow (Matt. 6:9-13; Luke 11:2, NIV). For some of us, this disciple’s request resonates with us personally as we routinely plea for Jesus to teach us to pray. I wonder how life-altering such a request could be if it poured from the heart of the next generation in prayer.
Therefore, as we tell the story of the disciple’s request and Jesus’ gracious response, let us encourage our students to humbly seek the face of the King of Kings and ask him to teach them, as his children, how to pray (2 Chron. 7:14; Jas. 1:5). Then, as you consider your role in teaching students how to pray, contemplate the following:
● Look to Jesus’ model for prayer and establish a basic structure to guide students in following the Lord’s prayer (Matt. 6:9-13).
o Implement one of the many acronyms that follow the Lord’s prayer. Or get creative as a ministry and collaborate with students to develop one.
o Encourage students to memorize the Lord’s prayer. Then, as they recite the Lord’s prayer they can elaborate with personal prayer.
o Demonstrate this structure and provide opportunities for students to put prayer into practice privately and corporately.
● Come alongside students in the development of a personalized prayer plan (create a template that can fit inside their Bible to be easily referenced).
● Teach students to pray authentically, regularly, and with persistence (Matt. 6:7-8; Luke 5:16, 18:1).
● Teach students the necessity of withdrawing in private prayer (Psalm 46:10; Matt. 6:6; Luke 5:16).
● Teach students the necessity of gathering to pray corporately:
o With one another (Acts 1:14)
o For one another (Matt. 19:13; John 17:19)
Although students may be overly familiar with prayer as a mere word, hopefully by biblically addressing these three questions they will come to see and experience prayer as a discipline essential to a thriving walk with Christ. Now, how do we build on this foundation to lead students to pray with and for the lost and saved of their generation? That’s coming up next in part two of this series on prayer! For now, be encouraged to prayerfully consider and creatively address these questions within your own life and ministry context.